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1 Year in the City

Budapest-hotels

It never ceases to amaze me how quickly time flies. The one year anniversary of living in Budapest has been and gone!

Not only have I been looking back over the last year of my life, but also how I feel this blog has become half a help guide to expats half an online diary or maybe even a rant.

I’ve learnt so much about myself in the last year, there are many things I would do differently and things I wouldn’t change.

My patience has grown a little, although I still have my days where I let the bureaucracy get me down.

I do not give up so easily, but there is room for improvement. As far as I’m concerned I’ve managed to live here a year so that is proof enough.

So if you are just moving to Budapest or Hungary in General here is my advise to making your way though your first year.

Getting to know the city!

Buy a pass and use the overground public transport as much as possible.

Walk around the city get to know its streets.

Download the bkv app. Absolute life saver when your lost, it has a map which uses gps only, shows you the closest stops and full timetable of all available public transport!

metromap

Get out and meet people!

Join all the Facebook and other expat communities listed on my “online friending” post.

Learn Hungarian!!

A little goes a long way. When your more settled take classes. I can only recommend Babilon nyleviskola as it the only one I have attended, but there are many in and around the city.

http://www.babilon-nyelvstudio.hu/page.php?id=305

https://www.facebook.com/BabilonNyelviskola

Be patient!

Don’t let the bureaucracy get you down. Although at some times slow, the system does work in its own weird and wonderful way! To live here you have to learn to be laid back if your not already.

I wish you the best of luck! Contact me any time if you need help or advise!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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Finding My Feet

So after 6 months of a lot of up and downs I finally came to the realisation that actually with out all of these I wouldn’t be where I am now.

I finally have all the paperwork to work here! I can official say I am a resident of BUDAPEST! 🙂

I have a nice office job with normal hours…No more 12 hour shift!!!

My confidence in my self is finally returning….

I’m confident enough to go most places in the city on my own.  Previously I didn’t even feel confident enough to step out side the front door sometimes.

So its time I started looking to the future and How I can be my confident self again. As much as people speak English in the Capital I need to start learning more Hungarian. I want to be able to do things for my self and not really on other people so much.

In turn I’m hoping this will make it easier to make friends as an expat I have found it difficult to make friends with natives. Which I completely understand because they do not wish to speak in English all the time. It is easier enough to make friends with expats but most are students or just working here for a short period of time .

I have always been very independent and feel I have lost this in quite a big way since moving here…maybe this is one of the factors that has affected my confidence to.

So I am proud to say that I am finally starting to find my feet! I just need to keep pushing forward and eventually every thing will fall into place!

Reflection-the last 6 months

After being here some months I started to reflect on my time so far.

When I first arrived in Budapest I was definitely having an adrenaline high, I thought I could achieve anything, the world was my oyster. It was such a big decision to move here, leave all my friends and family behind to begin a new life in a country I had only visited twice before.

It didn’t take long for the rose tinted glasses to fall off! Once I’d unpacked my things and the final pieces of IKEA furniture had been put together reality hit me and it hit me hard.

Firstly I had to work my way around the administration system, as I’ve written in my previous posts its no mean feet and not for the faint hearted.

Secondly you start looking for jobs, this is relatively easy, with the many Facebook groups, expat sites and there are a few jobsites in English. It just amazes me how long it takes companies to reject you, if at all. Saying that 6 months later I’m still receiving emails saying “sorry you cannot be considered at this time.”

Thirdly I thought I should just put myself out there and start to make a few friends. At the age of 26 I wasn’t really sure how to go about this, pretty much all my friends from back home I’ve known since I was a kid or I have worked with. So this was a super Alien concept for me.  So I did a bit of Goggling as you do and came across a few different expat events.  I dragged my boyfriend along to one being held in a bar, After the 2nd drink I decided it had been a bad idea, everyone seemed to be students and very clicky. I saw one girl arrive on her own, she sat on a table of say 5-6 people and they point blank ignored her and actually turned their backs to her.  I motioned over to her and come and sit with the bf and myself. She turned out to be such a lovely girl and I was finally happy to have meet a native speaker that just wanted to hang out and not interested in getting pissed all the time.  Sadly after 3 months she had to leave, due to not being able to extend her visa.

save me

At one point I really started to struggle to understand why I’d moved here, I was super homesick, was missing everyone back home, was stressing because I wasn’t hearing back from job adverts. I think this was the lowest I’d been for a very long time and just didn’t know how to cope with all the Different emotions. Bless my boyfriend for putting up with me over this time period, but without him, I think I would have just jacked it all in and gone home.

Things could only get better from here and they did. I’ll write about this in my next post.

Samantha